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Fashion is about projecting where you're going in life.

Therefore, life is fashion, fashion is style.

That's the lifestyle I am producing. 
 

風尚是一種生活品味的投射

因此生活即是風尚,風尚便是品味

這就是我想實踐的生活方式

(Yosemite) Is Always A Good Idea


Exactly an year ago, I forwarded you this entry where I poured my heart out and tried to live a better life as a better lover. An year later now, things have shifted again; to a point that I am so exhausted from it. People fall in love, then they retreat with a broken heart, and they, of course, break somebody else's heart. Its a horrendous cycle, yet it is a life long practice until we - I hate to use the term of cliché: "the right one", - figure out the best way to connect with people with the right attitude. The aforementioned attitude I am talking about is not so literal, I am talking about being true to yourself and really understand how a relationship should work, in order to adjust yourself to the pattern and take the whole package of being in a relationship. That, my friend, includes a occasional broken-heart. It has to be a mutual feeling and understanding between you and your partner. Never sacrifice or belittle yourself to fit into it; let it tango and if both of you have the right attitude towards each other and the goal in life, it will mellow out.  Nothing should be forced; if it's meant to happen, the universe will show you how. Something like, when you met him/her, and time meant nothing. Things happened quickly but in a natural way. It may develop in a different way, but it feels right.

Who are we as a evolving individual is evaluating everyday, so how can I render and present it here in a modest manner was my biggest concern. I hope I make enough sense. In the end of the day, nobody ever changes, they just grow into a different direction which is maybe the opposite of ours - and that is okay. The most important thing is to know yourself first. Cliché again, I know. But to know what you really need in a relationship and what you can give and contribute in a relationship is SO crucial that I know exactly when to cut it with no doubt, no shame, and no regrets. If you learn how to love and trust yourself, you'll meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve. And when you do, love as much as you can.

近兩次的春遊始終沒有上刊,因為我已經向當時一起旅行的人告別,並重新開始一段感情,一份新工作,和一個更無謂也無畏的自己。我一直是個很果斷灑脫不黏膩的人,這一點,在每一次的成長中都一再的重新證明。

好像每過一年,生活就會出現大變動,身邊的人來來去去,生命跟我的星盤一樣,像水一樣不停流動。久違的朋友捎來訊息,我也只能輕笑地說,還不就老樣子,談戀愛分手談戀愛,和其他人也都一樣。雖然不是什麼情場老手,但是經歷幾段感情之後,也終於明白在一段感情之中,必須要明白自己想要的是什麼,並且毫無隱瞞的理解自己能給予什麼。只有在真正的透徹之後,才能用最正確最健康的方式對待對方,沒有什麼樣了不起的感情,是需要某一方低聲下氣的犧牲,並在其中深深受傷。受傷是必然的,但是如果以段感情註定會發生,全世界都會告訴你放心去談戀愛吧,這樣的篤定。探戈式的靠近對方,最終會舞出一段不踩腳的漂亮弧線。就是一種,事情來得很快,但是很自然,和以往不同,但是感覺很對。這些事都是不太需要解釋的。

事實上沒有人是會真正的變了一個人,每個人都只是有自己的方向要前往,有自己的路走。道不同了,互不為謀,也沒有什麼大不了的。在對的時候哭著道別,總比拖著一身傷痕累累還痛快。感情嘛,開心很重要。好好的善待自己,才能好好對待別人。如果遇到了,就好好愛,不要囉唆,好嗎。



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